The Book of Joy – Lasting Happiness in a Changing world 1.

What is the purpose of life? 

From the moment of birth, all humans want to discover happiness and reduce suffering.

From the core of our being, we simply desire joy and contentment. Sadly many of the things that undermine our joy and happiness are create by ourselves – such as negative tendencies of our mind, emotional reactivity, or from our inability to appreciate and utilize the resources that exist within us.

On Joy

Joy subsumes happiness. A mother’s joy. She knows there will be pain, however she accepts the pain, and from that suffering is one of the most incredible feelings of joy.

Overcoming Grief

If something can be done about the situation, what need is there for dejection? And if nothing can be done about it, what use is there for being dejected?

Reframing suffering with perspective

When we see things, we realise that not only do we not suffer, but so do many of our human brothers and sisters. So when we look at the same event from a wider perspective, we will reduce the worrying and our own suffering.

Suffering & Pain

We need to seperate the feelings of pain and the feeling of suffering. The suffering that follows is a response to the pain. Suffering brings more opportunity to see more things.

Self centeredness

A self-centered attitude is the source of the problem. We have to take care of ourselves without selfishly taking care of ourselves. We should have wise selfishness rather than foolish selfishness.

Breaking the Habit of being yourself 2.

  1. Choose an emotion to un-memorize. – Anger, resentment, sadness etc. Think about how you feel when you bring up this emotion. Does by body get warm? Head get fuzzy?
  2. Prune the habit of being yourself. Recognize the problem. Declare you have it. Surrender the emotion.
  3. Observe and remind yourself to maintain this new habit.
  • Observe the old self and remind yourself who you don’t want to be.
  • Be conscious in recognizing and observing aspects of your old self. And reminding.
  • How do you habitually act: Write down the actions you take. i.e. Sadness: Drinking too much. Sleeping in everyday etc.
  • Reminding: Remind why you were feeling this way. You throw focus on these actions.
  • Memorise the aspects of the old self, anticipate the habits of your new self.
  • You will experience joy
  • Make choices with your new state of being
  • Redirecting: Picture your life when there is a reason to fall away from the ideal. Say, ‘Change’. You are no longer Epigenetically connected to your old thoughts.
  • Stop the knee jerk reaction.

 

 

Breaking the Habit of Being Youself 1.

A book summary By Dr. Joe Dispenza

By age 30, 95% of all our actions have been pre-programmed into our brains. Even if we try to create a new habit: Say to stop smoking, to eat more greens, the body has already been subconsciously doing that for the longest time.

When you think, your body creates feelings and those feelings create a chemical reaction in your body. For example, it can release stress hormones, which in excess amounts can cause you to become sick. Whenever you think, these chemicals over-ride your new thoughts and makes it difficult to allow your body to act on these new thoughts. Your body has become your mind.

The only way to create a new habit and change yourself is to Unlearn to Relearn.

You will need to reprogram yourself through the following steps.

  1. Thinking > Thoughts

      2. Doing > Action

     3. Being > Experience

 

In order to reset your mind, there are some mental steps to be aware of and to walk through.

  1. Choose an emotion to un-memorize. – Anger, resentment, sadness etc. Think about how you feel when you bring up this emotion.
  2. Prune the habit of being yourself. Recognize the problem. Declare you have it. Surrender the emotion.
  3. Observe and remind yourself to maintain this new habit.

 

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